Financial Coaching for Kingdom Men

Let’s be honest: the first time you sit down to talk about money, it’s probably going to create some friction. You might be eyeing a new 4K TV for the den, while she’s convinced the living room desperately needs new pillows. It’s easy to view these moments as a headache, but for the Kingdom Man, this is where true leadership begins. We all live with a limited amount of time and finances. The goal isn't just to "balance the books"—it’s to build financial intimacy with your spouse. Why "Winning Together" Requires One Account I often see couples try to maintain "financial independence" within a marriage—separate accounts, separate bills, and separate secrets. But if you want to win with money, you have to be on the same team.  When you merge your accounts, you eliminate the "roommate" dynamic. You can't truly fight debt or build a legacy if you are pulling in different directions. By pooling your resources, you create a larger "snowball...

Do you want financial freedom? Great! But what are you seeking to be freed from ? Is it work, debt, daily worry, or reliance on anyone else? Do you want to stop working altogether, or just have the option to shift to a part-time job that truly aligns with your values? Let’s define your personal destination as a faithful steward. Step 1: Define Your Financial Freedom How we define financial freedom is as diverse as we all are. Here are five common ways people frame this powerful goal. As you read these, prayerfully consider which one most closely aligns with God’s purpose for your life and family.  “You ask and do not receive, because you ask wrongly, to spend it on your passions.” James 4:3 Definition The Goal in Focus Kingdom Man Connection Passive Income Exceeds Living Expenses (The FIRE Definition) Freedom from the need to earn. Your income from investments, rentals, or royalties is greater than your total monthly expenses. At this point, working becomes optional. A focus on m...

Growing up I learned how to play chess.  I knew the rules of the game and how the pieces move and when someone asks me if I play chess I sheepishly say why yes I do.  I enjoy the game and comradery and if they know more than I do about chess I usually lose.   The boys in the house know much more than just the rules and how the pieces move.  They know chess notation, various openings, and strategy.  Did you know that you can lose a game in three moves?  I do now.  Just like you can lose a chess game quickly, you can lose the debt game quickly, too.  The boys in the house study me and my moves and predict what is going to happen so that they can win. The same can be said of those who lend out money.  They are not bad people, but they are absolutely masters of the financial game, their goal is to predict your moves to maximize their own win.  We as Kingdom men, must study their strategy to win our own financial game. Many times, we don...