Financial Coaching for Kingdom Men

Let’s be honest: the first time you sit down to talk about money, it’s probably going to create some friction. You might be eyeing a new 4K TV for the den, while she’s convinced the living room desperately needs new pillows. It’s easy to view these moments as a headache, but for the Kingdom Man, this is where true leadership begins. We all live with a limited amount of time and finances. The goal isn't just to "balance the books"—it’s to build financial intimacy with your spouse. Why "Winning Together" Requires One Account I often see couples try to maintain "financial independence" within a marriage—separate accounts, separate bills, and separate secrets. But if you want to win with money, you have to be on the same team.  When you merge your accounts, you eliminate the "roommate" dynamic. You can't truly fight debt or build a legacy if you are pulling in different directions. By pooling your resources, you create a larger "snowball...

Tax season has a way of holding up a mirror to our lives. You look at the "Gross Pay" on your W-2 and that familiar pit forms in your stomach. You think, “I made that much money last year? Where on earth did it all go?” Without a plan, money is remarkably flighty. If you don't intentionally tell it where to stay, it will fly away like a pet finch when the cage door is left ajar—quick, quiet, and suddenly out of reach. The Workplace Trap vs. The Family Blessing For many of us, our only experience with a "budget" is at the office. In the corporate world, a budget feels like a list of restrictions handed down from a department you’ve never visited. It’s a "no" to your ideas, a "not yet" to your project, and a ceiling on your potential. But a family budget is fundamentally different. It isn’t a corporate restriction; it is a Kingdom duty and a divine blessing. At work, you have no control. At home, you and your spouse are the Finance Committee. ...

A couple years ago, when I was in high school, I played tennis.  Ok, Ok, it was actually a few decades ago.  Playing singles tennis was fun.  If the ball came over the net, it was up to me to return it.  Run up to the net or back to the base line, it was all up to me.  When I played doubles it was a different story, the boundaries were bigger.  I had to pay attention and not run into my partner or worse hit them with my racket or the ball.  One of the fun things to do though was hit the ball right between the partners playing on the other side of the net.  Many times neither one would hit the ball, even though it would be easy for either one to hit it expecting the other would either get the ball or wouldn’t want to hurt the partner.  We called it the “Hubby Wife Area” lack of communication was a real issue.   This simple game of tennis reveals a profound truth about relationships. When it comes to a couple’s finances, that same lac...