Financial Coaching for Kingdom Men

Let’s be honest: the first time you sit down to talk about money, it’s probably going to create some friction. You might be eyeing a new 4K TV for the den, while she’s convinced the living room desperately needs new pillows. It’s easy to view these moments as a headache, but for the Kingdom Man, this is where true leadership begins. We all live with a limited amount of time and finances. The goal isn't just to "balance the books"—it’s to build financial intimacy with your spouse. Why "Winning Together" Requires One Account I often see couples try to maintain "financial independence" within a marriage—separate accounts, separate bills, and separate secrets. But if you want to win with money, you have to be on the same team.  When you merge your accounts, you eliminate the "roommate" dynamic. You can't truly fight debt or build a legacy if you are pulling in different directions. By pooling your resources, you create a larger "snowball...

We’ve all heard the phrase, "It's the thought that counts." And while that's certainly true in many aspects of life, for some, the act of receiving a gift isn't just a bonus – it's a primary way they feel loved, valued, and seen. This is the essence of the "Receiving Gifts" love language, one of the five identified by Gary Chapman. Visit 5lovelanguages.com for more information. If your spouse, friend, child, or even a client has this as their dominant love language, understanding it can transform your relationships and make your efforts at showing appreciation truly hit home.   I’m researching and writing this blog mostly for me, and thought that maybe you could find it helpful.  I want to make sure that my wife feels loved and sometimes I struggle to speak her language.  If you are like me, it’s good to take a moment and consider this information and put a plan together to put it into practice.     It's Not About the Price Tag Let’s clear up a...

A couple years ago, when I was in high school, I played tennis.  Ok, Ok, it was actually a few decades ago.  Playing singles tennis was fun.  If the ball came over the net, it was up to me to return it.  Run up to the net or back to the base line, it was all up to me.  When I played doubles it was a different story, the boundaries were bigger.  I had to pay attention and not run into my partner or worse hit them with my racket or the ball.  One of the fun things to do though was hit the ball right between the partners playing on the other side of the net.  Many times neither one would hit the ball, even though it would be easy for either one to hit it expecting the other would either get the ball or wouldn’t want to hurt the partner.  We called it the “Hubby Wife Area” lack of communication was a real issue.   This simple game of tennis reveals a profound truth about relationships. When it comes to a couple’s finances, that same lac...